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How we do back to school…

Back to school means splurging on discounted school supplies, getting back on a rigid schedule, and having that bittersweet feeling we all get at the first day of drop-off. Back to school was also the time I used to hide my face inside my shirt and run around with a bottle of Lysol spraying everything, everywhere inside my home. Doorknobs, bed-sheets, sofa cushions, remotes, my kid, even the hubby got caught up in my crazy compulsions. The moment I heard either one of them coughing, I was determined I would not allow myself to get sick. However, no matter how much I washed, cleaned and sanitized, we would all fall prey to the back to school germs.

Fast forward to this year, we now have Ethan in his second year of preschool and a one year old at home. During car line pickup I noticed Ethan, in all of his wonderful innocence, loving on his little brother as soon as the car doors opened. Not two weeks into school, I had my baby coming down with the sniffles. Not long after that, my husband and I were starting to feel a sore throat coming on, meanwhile, little Ethan has been walking around with a hop to his skip, all happy and healthy. Naturally, one would think I should have my face-in-shirt and Lysol-in-hand defense position ready. (Can you imagine how ridiculous I looked doing so? I have!) However, this time I found a healthier, safer, and natural way to up our immunities. 

I always had an interest in essential oils and their “magical power”. Turns out it’s the power of basic science that makes essential oils so effective. Essential oils are natural as they are extracted and distilled from plants. Pure oils are safe as they can communicate with the body to address root causes, without building resistance, and can cross the lipid bilayer at the cellular lever to combat even viral threats. They allow their users a peace of mind and serve as an enhancement of physical and emotional health without the side effects that accompany the modern approach. For these reasons, and many more, I couldn’t help but to join the dōTERRA community of essential oil users.

With pre-diluted oils made especially for babies and young children, doTERRA made it easy for this mama to make back to school a breeze. No more hiding from school germs, instead we have been able to keep them away by using the special blends in the children’s oil kit to keep my boys healthy – naturally. Simply applying Stronger (similar to the popular On Guard blend) down Ethan’s and the baby’s neck and back everyday before school and before bed, we have been able to prevent both boys from getting sick even though they continue to share germs – I mean LOVE each other… 

Not only do we love Stronger but also have learned to incorporate the other wonderful blends into our daily routine. Along with the protective blend, Ethan enjoys applying Thinker every morning on his temples to help him focus his mind while he is at school. He’s even gotten several compliments of smelling great from his friends. I also love carrying Rescuer (the blue soothing blend) for any sudden aches and pains, not only for them but, for me as well. Lately, Ethan has been having growing leg pains, the baby as he learns to walk has bumps from falling down and even I, with just tension on my own shoulders and neck, a simply application has definitely rescued us from long hours of unnecessary aching. My two favorites to use with the baby are Calmer (the purple restful bend) and Steady (the green grounding blend) as he tends to be living with FOMO (fear of missing out). He fights for hours just to nap and when bedtime rolls around, he starts playing and laughing from pure exhaustion. Some Calmer on the bottom of his feet and on his little wrists and Steady on the back of his ears helps tremendously to relax my little one and to be on his way to restful sleep, giving us all a peace of mind.  

**BONUS** yay!

Probably the best protective blend yet – with FLOOM, I no longer have to worry about being on the look out for a cough or a sneeze, and I definitely don’t need to have my Lysol ready either. It is a magnificent blend of powerful Frankincense, cleansing Lemon, protective On Guard, antiviral Oregano and antibacterial Melaleuca. Equal parts of each, topped off with your choice of carrier oil gives you a pocket-sized intense immune support. I rub some of this FLOOM magic down the neck and the back of the ears on my husband and myself and I kid you not, this stuff really works. Erick goes from having a scratchy throat and potential ear aches to being completely better within just 20 minutes. And I don’t take any chances, instead of hiding from the germs they all love sharing, I just apply some FLOOM on myself and my oils take care of the rest. I can proudly say I am five months strong, without getting sick. As a stay at home mother, I cannot afford to go down with the flu or to call out. I need to make sure I am taking the necessary steps to protect myself and my family. I appreciate that doTERRA has made this a reality for us and I can rest assured  that I am not adding toxic chemicals to our bodies or to the air we breathe in order to protect our immune systems. 

Well guys, I loved sharing a little of what we do. Please stay tune for the next blog on what oils I like using in my diffuser to keep the air clean and set the right mood at home.

As always, have a wonderful day!

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Sleep will come

As I rock my baby boy to sleep in his bassinet 15 mins to 1 am, all I can think about is how difficult it will be adjusting to a five day schedule for my toddler’s new school year. How hard it will be to plan a schedule AND actually stick to it. As I rock my baby boy to sleep I dream of sleep myself; so foreign and unobtainable is dear sleep to me. And yet with fewer hours of sleep each night, I am still required to function as a mother, as a wife, as a human being.

What’s worse is when I feel like giving up nursing because he’s using me for comfort (awww cute sleepy face 😑)

When I start to question my life wondering if I’m doing it right,

I don’t mean to pry, but

Why can’t you stay sleeping through the night?

Why must you awaken every ten mins for hours on end?

Why are your cries for me, consoled only by my scent, so endearing?

How do you draw me in with your soft, tiny, baby hands?

How can such little human fingers grasp my heart and squeeze so tight?

Then it all comes flooding back…

It’s only for a moment.

A moment that might be our last,

In our life, in this world.

So I take a deep breath and take you in,

Into my lungs so deep and let you

Onto my side.

I cuddle and embrace you knowing This will only be but a moment

Of need and comfort

Because soon you’ll be a big boy,

A teen and then a man

And though you might never remember

Know I will never forget,

How much you wanted me and how I needed you,

All these restless nights ♥️

Sleep will come, maybe in bits now and later in full but I will continue to love on you little baby until I am no more.

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Focus On Your Target

Parenting doesn’t come with a guide book. But, even if you did have a guide book, would it really help? Having a parenting guide book made by someone else might show you how to change to a diaper or how to cook baby food but it might not prepare you on how deal with your child’s character. I have also learned from other moms that having a previous child won’t prepare you for the next one either. 

Each kid is his or her own person. What worked with my mother for me didn’t work the same way for my little sister. And what my mom learned with us both, she couldn’t use on my youngest brother. What worked for my mother isn’t working for me with my own toddler now. So what are we to do beside cross our fingers and pray to God we get it right? 

I can tell you what’s working (and still a work in progress) for me SO FAR… 

Instead of focusing on the CHILD, I have learned to focus on MYSELF. 

Yes, I know it’s our kid doing the yelling, the screaming, the kicking and the nonsense behavior. Sometimes you wonder deeply if maybe you bumped your pregnant belly too hard once before. This is not to say that kids wont be kids but kids can be testy! I  worked about a year in a daycare and I can guarantee you that your kid is smarter than you already. They are simply looking to see what reaction they will get from you whenever something happens. She spilled the milk you just pumped? Did he poop on the bathroom floor even though he’s supposed to be potty-trained for a year? Did she throw a tantrum at the store? Did he poke his little brother in the eye and lied about it? Okay, I get it. All those things can be frustrating to deal with especially when they come grouped all together (can I get an Amen)? But let me let you in on this great secret I discovered, your child(ren) look to you to see how you react to any situation. 

You spilled your drink? Are you cursing up a storm and frustrated at having to clean it up or are you simply upset but can clean it up with a good attitude? 

So, your kid is yelling at you. What is your reaction? Yell back? They yell back again. You yell back louder. Or do you calmly answer them, explaining that if they want to be heard they must communicate properly? And I get it, it doesn’t work 100% of the time but it will help you to not grow old so quickly. #facts. 

It’s so comical to me because it took way too long to realize focusing on yourself can be applied generally with anyone not just parents dealing with their kids. Take it from someone who found it difficult to like people, even though considered a people-person with great people-skills. There was a time that every word out of my mouth was laced with pure sarcasm (pun intended). I had to learn that sarcasm was actually a hypocritical way to express my true feelings and to teach myself to just speak the truth straight forward. Sarcasm had become a way to deal with people that I found frustrating. So much so that it started negatively effecting my good relationships and causing people to not want to speak to me because of it. I was letting other people’s behavior determine the way I reacted or responded and that was the point. No one should determine my behavior, instead my behavior should be determined my values and in turn, that will reflect in the way I respond: calm and collective. 

Restrain yourself. 

Take a whoooosaaaa moment to relax your mind. 

Stop to think about what is important at the present time and if this were your last moment with that person, how would that effect you? Would you have any regrets? Or two years from now would you look back and think, “Ha, ha, ha! I’m so proud of myself for keeping up that unnecessary argument flowing”. Would you have to give an apology to someone you felt didn’t deserve it? Or would you be accepting an apology that was never spoken? We just might never know. And this is not for us to live in constant fear of the unknown but to learn to cherish life for what it is-a gift, more often then not, given to many. And what is more are the very children we struggle to understand. They are our borrowed treasures from heaven. We should re-train ourselves to be patient, loving and compassionate knowing that we too were once that little and had our own struggles with communication and understanding our emotions. 

Even dinosaurs, or should I say, “DinoTrux,” have to learn to refocus their energy so they don’t blow a gasket! Ethan is currently obsessed with this new dinosaur/mechanical truck show on #Netflix called #DinoTrux and they have pretty good life lessons on their episodes. In one episode, the “trux” named Dozer clearly has some anger issues to resolve. Throughout the entire episode, we see him literally causing his own destruction because he’s allowing others to annoy him to the point of breaking down. He gets so frustrated that he is left with just one functioning “tread” rendering him immobile. Dozer had to learn what super-chilled “trux” named George had discovered many years before, the power of the downshift. Harvesting the ability to maintain inner peace in the mist of external chaos. Dozer takes George’s advice to remain calm and pushes pass the commotion brought about to distract him from staying relaxed. At the end of the scene, Dozer is able to get to the mineral baths that will fix the pressure problem caused by the previous frustrating moments allowing him to rejoin the team against the bad guys.

Sounds funny to get life lessons from a kids show, but it’s what we want our children to acquire and it is what we must learn to remember: When you learn to focus on yourself, you focus on the right target. 

<For those of you mildly interested in the episode mentioned above, here is a clip of Dozer learning the power of his downshift> 

https://youtu.be/D4-G4ibL1Fg?t=100