Posted in Mommy & Me Mondays

Focus On Your Target

Parenting doesn’t come with a guide book. But, even if you did have a guide book, would it really help? Having a parenting guide book made by someone else might show you how to change to a diaper or how to cook baby food but it might not prepare you on how deal with your child’s character. I have also learned from other moms that having a previous child won’t prepare you for the next one either. 

Each kid is his or her own person. What worked with my mother for me didn’t work the same way for my little sister. And what my mom learned with us both, she couldn’t use on my youngest brother. What worked for my mother isn’t working for me with my own toddler now. So what are we to do beside cross our fingers and pray to God we get it right? 

I can tell you what’s working (and still a work in progress) for me SO FAR… 

Instead of focusing on the CHILD, I have learned to focus on MYSELF. 

Yes, I know it’s our kid doing the yelling, the screaming, the kicking and the nonsense behavior. Sometimes you wonder deeply if maybe you bumped your pregnant belly too hard once before. This is not to say that kids wont be kids but kids can be testy! I  worked about a year in a daycare and I can guarantee you that your kid is smarter than you already. They are simply looking to see what reaction they will get from you whenever something happens. She spilled the milk you just pumped? Did he poop on the bathroom floor even though he’s supposed to be potty-trained for a year? Did she throw a tantrum at the store? Did he poke his little brother in the eye and lied about it? Okay, I get it. All those things can be frustrating to deal with especially when they come grouped all together (can I get an Amen)? But let me let you in on this great secret I discovered, your child(ren) look to you to see how you react to any situation. 

You spilled your drink? Are you cursing up a storm and frustrated at having to clean it up or are you simply upset but can clean it up with a good attitude? 

So, your kid is yelling at you. What is your reaction? Yell back? They yell back again. You yell back louder. Or do you calmly answer them, explaining that if they want to be heard they must communicate properly? And I get it, it doesn’t work 100% of the time but it will help you to not grow old so quickly. #facts. 

It’s so comical to me because it took way too long to realize focusing on yourself can be applied generally with anyone not just parents dealing with their kids. Take it from someone who found it difficult to like people, even though considered a people-person with great people-skills. There was a time that every word out of my mouth was laced with pure sarcasm (pun intended). I had to learn that sarcasm was actually a hypocritical way to express my true feelings and to teach myself to just speak the truth straight forward. Sarcasm had become a way to deal with people that I found frustrating. So much so that it started negatively effecting my good relationships and causing people to not want to speak to me because of it. I was letting other people’s behavior determine the way I reacted or responded and that was the point. No one should determine my behavior, instead my behavior should be determined my values and in turn, that will reflect in the way I respond: calm and collective. 

Restrain yourself. 

Take a whoooosaaaa moment to relax your mind. 

Stop to think about what is important at the present time and if this were your last moment with that person, how would that effect you? Would you have any regrets? Or two years from now would you look back and think, “Ha, ha, ha! I’m so proud of myself for keeping up that unnecessary argument flowing”. Would you have to give an apology to someone you felt didn’t deserve it? Or would you be accepting an apology that was never spoken? We just might never know. And this is not for us to live in constant fear of the unknown but to learn to cherish life for what it is-a gift, more often then not, given to many. And what is more are the very children we struggle to understand. They are our borrowed treasures from heaven. We should re-train ourselves to be patient, loving and compassionate knowing that we too were once that little and had our own struggles with communication and understanding our emotions. 

Even dinosaurs, or should I say, “DinoTrux,” have to learn to refocus their energy so they don’t blow a gasket! Ethan is currently obsessed with this new dinosaur/mechanical truck show on #Netflix called #DinoTrux and they have pretty good life lessons on their episodes. In one episode, the “trux” named Dozer clearly has some anger issues to resolve. Throughout the entire episode, we see him literally causing his own destruction because he’s allowing others to annoy him to the point of breaking down. He gets so frustrated that he is left with just one functioning “tread” rendering him immobile. Dozer had to learn what super-chilled “trux” named George had discovered many years before, the power of the downshift. Harvesting the ability to maintain inner peace in the mist of external chaos. Dozer takes George’s advice to remain calm and pushes pass the commotion brought about to distract him from staying relaxed. At the end of the scene, Dozer is able to get to the mineral baths that will fix the pressure problem caused by the previous frustrating moments allowing him to rejoin the team against the bad guys.

Sounds funny to get life lessons from a kids show, but it’s what we want our children to acquire and it is what we must learn to remember: When you learn to focus on your yourself, you focus on the right target. 

<For those of you mildly interested in the episode mentioned above, here is a clip of Dozer learning the power of his downshift>

Posted in Tasty Tuesdays

Trying Honey Ham

My first attempt in making a simple ham in my new crockpot

I know today isn’t Tuesday, it isn’t Saturday either…  (I woke up thinking today was Saturday – sad when I found out because I was looking forward to the Christmas event at our apartment complex), BUT I will share this very simple recipe I found for cooking ham in a crockpot. You will have to excuse me as I wasn’t prepared at all and this is my first time both cooking ham and using a crockpot! Nevertheless, ONWARD MY FRIENDS! So I bought a ham from walmart pre-sliced and fully cooked and cured. The ham was a little less than 4.5 lbs. Thankfully I saw the recipe called for brown sugar and pineapple slices ahead of time. I say thankfully because of course I would lose the recipe before cooking. And if you check out the details of my photo you will notice that we bought chunks instead of slices of pineapples – another fail! but I didn’t let that stop me from cooking this ham. So this is composed of two random recipes put together. Talk about improvisation. Anyway, so I measured out 1 cup of brown sugar and used 1/4 of it to cover the bottom of the crockpot. I layered the ham slices with pineapple chunks in between. The other 3/4s of the brown sugar were mixed with the pineapple juice from the pineapple can and check this… I also needed ground cloves. Yeahh did I mentioned I didn’t even realize that was part of the new recipe? Also that I don’t have ground cloves in my pantry? So what is a girl to do with two small children and when a run to the supermarket is out of the question? That’s right! Google! 

Fun Fact: Did you know? If you don’t have ground cloves readily available, you can use a 50/50 ratio blend of cinnamon and nutmeg powders as a substitute. 

The Spruce Eats

Both of which I have in my pantry, cinnamon for my coffee and nutmeg for seasonal coquito. YAY! So now we can move on. I drizzled the mixture onto the ham and set the cooker for 2.5 hours on low heat. (The second recipe I saw had used an 8lb ham and it cooked for 4 hours so I figured 2.5 hours should do the trick). 

< Insert three breastfeedings, eight baby spit-ups, showering and some tv time >

It’s finger-licking gooooddd =)

Ladies and gents! this ham came out so delicious and sweet!! I surprised myself HA! and I had to control myself since the hubby isn’t home yet and I now have to cook up the rest of the sides that we will eat with the yummy ham.  I have to say, I really liked that I was able to get the ham pre-sliced and boneless. So much simpler!

  • Tip: If you do decide to add pineapple to your ham, go for two small cans to add a tiny bit more sweetness. Also adding actual honey might help with making the sauce thicker. That will have to be experimented on another day. 

Well, thank you for reading and for letting us share a little of our night with you.

As always have a wonderful day. 🤪

Posted in Saturday Projects

Empty Wall

Good Afternoon!

Today everyone was up and ready to start the day early. Start the day in our living room that is. Cleared up the many pillows we like having on our couch, swept the floors, kissed the hubby goodbye and organized a few boxes still left to unpack. We have been in our new home since mid-January this year. And many might say Sheesh! It is almost a year and still, you have boxes? Why, yessir! We do! As the theme of this blog goes, we are learning to enjoy LIFE one day at a time. Sometimes that means leaving off certain boxes to the very end lol. So with bowls filled with cereal and Christmas carols blasting through the tv, I decided that I will finally decorate one of the walls in our apartment. It stands right behind our dining table, it’s big and it’s plain!

Note: Ethan’s very own decorated Christmas tree

See what I mean? Now, I have debated whether to just add photos to this wall or to decorate it like some moms I know have done. But as crafty as I am, I hate to admit I am not so creative or knowledgeable of different decorating styles. Yikes! So now what to do? Well, the Christmas season is here YAY! and I had an idea for the wall. About two years ago I started making personalized Christmas stockings for every member of our extended family. Yes… you read right, all of them! Even their PETS! Hey! I was bored… cut me some slack. Plus it had to do with a little tradition I wanted to start with my own family just as my mom had done with us (Awwwww mushy face)

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So I have about 20 of these adorable Christmas stockings and have a few more to make as the family just keeps growing. Now since this year, we won’t be putting up a big tree, I thought “Why not put these stockings up?” on the aforementioned wall. I am thinking of hanging them on gold crochet thread with golden or silver jiggle bells in between the stockings. Pinning up the thread to form a cute design on the wall and calling it a day. Maybe later add some battery powered lights to make it a warm ambiance. An updated picture of that mini project will be posted next week.

I’m off to washing dishes and trying out my new crockpot (honey ham here I come!)

Let me know below what ideas you have for empty walls in your home.  ♥️